Here’s some general information about my Marathon Therapy process and fees -
Prior to the first day, I will meet with you both for a joint 50 minute consultation where I will gain understanding about your goals for therapy, and some background information about your relationship. Then you each complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup Assessments which comprise of items that ask about each of your current perspective regarding the relationship. This assesses friendship, intimacy, how well you know each other, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives. There are also questions about parenting, housework, finances, trust, and individual areas of concern. You will receive a comprehensive analysis report at the beginning of the first day and this will guide the treatment planing.
Then I have individual phone / Skype sessions with each of you so I can get to know each of your perspectives, who you each are, your personalities and personal approaches, assumptions and expectations regarding various aspects of life.
Then we begin the two days. To start off, I hear about your present challenges as well as the history and narrative of the relationship. I will also get some understanding about how you manage your conflict and what some of the patterns are specifically for you and your spouse. I will then share some information of mine and some principles of the Gottman Method of couples therapy. I will be able to give you a general idea of how I see your challenges from an initial point of view and give you a rough idea of the sequence of moving forward. I will help you understand where you want your relationship to head towards and give you a roadmap for this.
We will then start working through strategies to address conflict. This will involve strategies to communicate about the differences you have in your expectations of each other (the source of conflict). I will give you a specific strategy to use to raise ‘complaints’ in ways that foster understanding and empathy rather than defensiveness. I will help you move through the cycle of ‘criticism-defensiveness, counter-attack’ to one far more constructive for your relationship. Some common themes that couples find themselves in conflict relate to different expectations of each other when it comes to sex, parenting, household maintenance, finances, relations with in-laws, digital distractions and work-life balance.
These initial interventions are designed to give couples the chance to slow communication down and will force you to consider each other’s perspective and why each perspective is so important to the other. We will find out what each of you need in order to feel fulfilled, acknowledged and understood in the relationship.
I will also run you through interventions to process past fights / regrettable incidents or bad memories that haven’t been dealt with yet. We call this a repair process and is critical to learn. This is the fundamental key in successful marriages. This repair process can be applied to major regrettable incidents or small, silly squabbles - the same principles apply - that the couple comes to a consensus about where things went wrong, what lead to it, what each partner contributed to it and what they need to avoid the same thing happening in the future.
On the first day in the afternoon, I will set you a daily talking exercise that brings together the skills we’ve learnt in day 1 and that foster better communication moving forward.
On day two, we continue with conflict management and repair and then see what’s left - what’s left of the intimacy, the fondness and admiration, and what gives meaning to your lives. We look at the bigger picture.
The package includes initial phone consult to each partner, the Gottman Assessment and Analysis, the two full days, a huge pack of resources from the Gottman Institute plus two follow up sessions 4 and 6 weeks later. I tend to keep in touch with couples and check in with them at various points to increase the likelihood that the progress is maintained at home. My rate for this whole package is $5900.
You get:
The Relationship Checkup Questionnaires & Analysis, Relationship Report, Initial joint consultation, 2 x individual consultations, two full days of therapy, 2 x follow up sessions, huge pack of resources from The Gottman Institute.
Prior to the first day, I will meet with you both for a joint 50 minute consultation where I will gain understanding about your goals for therapy, and some background information about your relationship. Then you each complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup Assessments which comprise of items that ask about each of your current perspective regarding the relationship. This assesses friendship, intimacy, how well you know each other, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives. There are also questions about parenting, housework, finances, trust, and individual areas of concern. You will receive a comprehensive analysis report at the beginning of the first day and this will guide the treatment planing.
Then I have individual phone / Skype sessions with each of you so I can get to know each of your perspectives, who you each are, your personalities and personal approaches, assumptions and expectations regarding various aspects of life.
Then we begin the two days. To start off, I hear about your present challenges as well as the history and narrative of the relationship. I will also get some understanding about how you manage your conflict and what some of the patterns are specifically for you and your spouse. I will then share some information of mine and some principles of the Gottman Method of couples therapy. I will be able to give you a general idea of how I see your challenges from an initial point of view and give you a rough idea of the sequence of moving forward. I will help you understand where you want your relationship to head towards and give you a roadmap for this.
We will then start working through strategies to address conflict. This will involve strategies to communicate about the differences you have in your expectations of each other (the source of conflict). I will give you a specific strategy to use to raise ‘complaints’ in ways that foster understanding and empathy rather than defensiveness. I will help you move through the cycle of ‘criticism-defensiveness, counter-attack’ to one far more constructive for your relationship. Some common themes that couples find themselves in conflict relate to different expectations of each other when it comes to sex, parenting, household maintenance, finances, relations with in-laws, digital distractions and work-life balance.
These initial interventions are designed to give couples the chance to slow communication down and will force you to consider each other’s perspective and why each perspective is so important to the other. We will find out what each of you need in order to feel fulfilled, acknowledged and understood in the relationship.
I will also run you through interventions to process past fights / regrettable incidents or bad memories that haven’t been dealt with yet. We call this a repair process and is critical to learn. This is the fundamental key in successful marriages. This repair process can be applied to major regrettable incidents or small, silly squabbles - the same principles apply - that the couple comes to a consensus about where things went wrong, what lead to it, what each partner contributed to it and what they need to avoid the same thing happening in the future.
On the first day in the afternoon, I will set you a daily talking exercise that brings together the skills we’ve learnt in day 1 and that foster better communication moving forward.
On day two, we continue with conflict management and repair and then see what’s left - what’s left of the intimacy, the fondness and admiration, and what gives meaning to your lives. We look at the bigger picture.
The package includes initial phone consult to each partner, the Gottman Assessment and Analysis, the two full days, a huge pack of resources from the Gottman Institute plus two follow up sessions 4 and 6 weeks later. I tend to keep in touch with couples and check in with them at various points to increase the likelihood that the progress is maintained at home. My rate for this whole package is $5900.
You get:
The Relationship Checkup Questionnaires & Analysis, Relationship Report, Initial joint consultation, 2 x individual consultations, two full days of therapy, 2 x follow up sessions, huge pack of resources from The Gottman Institute.